Healing Emotional Wounds

We all have subtle/energetic/Astral, physical, spiritual and mental bodies(detach from EGO). They are all governed by our emotions, experiences and traumas and how they make us FEEL.

As I started to reconnect to my emotional body, and look more into energy healing in combination with traditional medical practices for a holistic approach I found ways to move and release the emotions that were trapped or repressed in my physical and metaphysical vessel weighing me down making it hard to move forward in my journey. Feeling trapped or stagnant or depressed.

Remember this journey is not to be binged

Slow and steady wins the race.

Being mindful of unhealthy coping mechanisms can put extra strain on your mental, physical and emotional or energetic bodies. Ie. Eating heavy, overworking to distract yourself, overstimulating researching, substance abuse and emotional addiction media all can dampen your SPIRIT or WILL to stay focused and present. Practice being still, incorporate a moment of stillness in your everyday life. I like to do it right when I wake or right before I shut my eyes for sleep. Due what works for you and your lifestyle.

Depression is a repression of SELF, ALL of you, not just the physical aspect.

Conquering depression is about de-shadowing SELF. The mental body, physical body, the energetic/subtle body, the aura are all governed by the human emotions and experiences. "The more you align with your soul the more you integrate and become whole."

How to get to know your Emotional body. Learn how to Recognize, Express/Honor and Regulate them.

Awareness: Announce it to SELF or as an icebreaker to create normalcy around your human experience.

• The 1st step to stop repressing them is to come to terms and admit to them. We try to psych ourselves out of believing we have these emotions due to social pressures to seem perfect or put together burying them deep down into our unconscious shadow only making it bigger and bigger until that dark cloud that hangs over our head because stuck there, so big it engulfs us in it.

Some of the hardest ones to admit to are(due to unfamiliarity or denial/numbness)

So you have difficulty discerning or deciphering your feelings because they become foreign or unrecognizable.

These emotions are….

When you feel fear/scared/terror, anxious,anxiety, overwhelm/burnout, depression, anger/rage, grief

Journal Prompt:

"What emotions do I not feel safe expressing, and in what social settings?"

Mantra: "I am feeling_____and that's ok."

Recognize (Shadow Work of the Subtle/Astral/Emotional body) *for black people everything is shadow work rt 😆🤦🏾‍♀️

• Triggers are great teachers use them as a roadmap to help you to identify your emotions. This is a great method.

• Get to know your body, listen to how it feels in stressful situations. Look into ailments they guide you to energetic imbalances as well. Sensations guide you like a roadmap to the pain, trauma, wounds or just overall lost emotions that have been shadowed, forgotten, oppressed or shunned for whatever reason.

• Ex. For me, tension in my back down my spine, in my shoulders, traps, neck and head are indicators of stress and emotions that need to be released.

• I also grind my teeth, bite my cuticles and have a nervous stomach/nausea or cramps in my belly when I'm scared or anxious.

• Coping mechanisms are another road map to see what's happening internally. Your need to continue to suppress these emotions comes from not feeling safe. So you use substance or behaviors to try and CONTROL the shadow, not knowing it only makes it bigger and stronger you're literally feeding the kitten that you were led to believe was a dragon and now it is actually turning into one. After so much neglect and festering.

• Look at the thoughts that run in your head that lead you to shop, binge eat, drink, smoke, pop pills

• Coping mechanisms and addictions can be managed and used to actually help heal you. Who knew they could have an actual purpose lol. Allow the drug or behavior to accompany you in transit through tough moments as comfort, to soothe/pacify you while you search for answers long enough to make some progress. Then balance and use moderation to regulate these behaviors.

Express/Honor

• Once you recognize the emotion based on the sensations and thoughts. EXPRESS THEM! YOU ARE HUMAN!

• When situations come up that have you FEELING some type of way express that ish. Don't let people make you feel like you're being "unprofessional", extra, doing the most, in yo feelings, all these narratives that make us retreat back into our sunken place or closet of repression of self. You are allowed to FEEL. It's ok. That's how we learn and experiences life that's the beauty of being incarnated in a human body full of sensations enjoy that ish. Lavish in it.

• Sit with them, give them space and know sometimes emotions come up and don't have a clear reason. That's OK too, more light is coming into your body and surfacing old wounds that need clearing and healing.

• And what I've noticed is for a lot of black people we've just adopted a normalcy or chronic sense of fear or anxiousness that we have to reparent into a mindset of safety and rest and digest. Our nervous systems are in overdrive. This is why I call it holistic Wellness not just one thing. It's all interconnected. Our society is behind in this way of healing.

• Get out your head and relearn how to communicate. We are having to start over from scratch in this new generation learning how to stop assuming and just going out there taking the risk and interacting as HUMAN BEINGS not so closeted because we care or fear the judgment of others. People always talk. You will never have the ability to change someone; they have to want it, but you can change how you react to them. Half the time they can't even control or are even aware of how negative their thought process is. Some are still on autopilot not to mean they are less than but they know not fully how their conditioning and EGO is running or dictating their inner world, reality and feelings towards others and life in general.

Clear out, heal or transmute trapped or stuck energies

• Energy healing can release you from a life of pain( ex. Reiki, Breathwork, Meditation, EFT Tapping, emotion code etc.)

• Use intentional prayer with everything! God 1st

• When you recognize the energy after you've surrendered and left it up to GOD you can use coping mechanisms to help your entire system continue on in your journey.

I.e. When I'm working on my teaching material my back gets tense, I clench my teeth, I bite my cuticles and feel anxious and tense due to the pressure of achieving and needing to get my family out of poverty, heal my people and gain respect. So,

Today I ate, did a lil Journaling, reiki meditation and then took a nap. After that I ran some errands, got my son, some sun, danced, sang and listened to soca music, then came home drunk some tea and took a warm bath as recommended by my girl Raquel omitola.

Regulate your Emotional body

Repression of self.

OK, so now you've recognized, Expressed and now it's time to regulate them. Don't dwell too long, that's how you get stuck as well. Emotions are Energy in motion even depression. You get through the phase by reflecting and learning and knowing when it's time to move on.

• The guilt trip, which deregulates your emotions because you feel if you don't show you care or your pain in the same fashion then you don't care. This can unnecessarily prolong a low emotion.

Stress management

• Faith in God is necessary to continue in this journey you're not being asked to put your trust in everyone but God resides in all living things so know that the cretors power can overpower any being.

• Get the vibes right, create nostalgia or feelings of safety within what you visualize and feel. The mind doesn't know the difference. Think of how we've been doing this in our culture forever.*see my God's grace episode. For example cooking a good home-cooked meal, listening to your old school jams(Kem,maxwell, neosoul) singing/dancing/drinking your glass of wine or not, get the vibes right, those feel good ones.

Sleep, rest, take a break

Take a bath

Use mantras/clichés to soothe your spirit:

• "Blocks are your blessing"

• "Everything in divine time"

• "Everything happens for a reason"

• Everything is OK, what's meant to happen, will happen

• Life happens I will be OK

• It's ok to feel...or I'm feeling….and that's ok

Use these mantras to calm your anxiety, anger, frustration or disappointment in situations that are out of your CONTROL

Remember to breathe it's not the end of the world/ life or death

Have done FUN! Play with your kiddo(s)

Laugh

Have sex

Take a vacation or staycation

Meditation

Chat with a friend

Watch a funny movie, or live comedy show

Aromatherapy- Essential oils for stress and anxiety

Eat a good meal

Cook a good meal

Clean up the house

Decanter

Set love limits

Say no sometimes

Take a walk in nature

Workout

Go get your nails, toes, hair done or go to a spa and get a massage and facial.

Sing, dance

Year some boxes up, pop some packing bubbles 😆

Almost forgot...

• Look into EGOwork blogs and episode to learn how to conquer and detach from the mind. Remember thoughts are roadmaps as well.

• I will be making an episode on the body as well so we can learn about different autonomic responses to emotions.(God will put you in situations that will make you honor and release these trapped emotions)

Roadblocks in the culture/community/society

De-evolving from HUMAN to ROBOT

• Being this strong black woman or man

• Perfectionism/idea persona "being a Saint, nun, or positive all the time" you can only worship so much. Sometimes being authentic in your human reaction gives someone a taste of their own medicine. Which may be the wake up call they needed for a breakthrough.

• Social Media

• Technology turning us into robots

• The EGO-Massa Mentality or the henchman that keeps people afraid to express themselves. Not feeling safe.

• Work culture

• Media depictions of what weak, lame